Be your best Valentine
Tuesday, February 14, 2012 at 7:18AM |
Linji So we're on the cusp of one of the biggest commercial holidays of the year, the big holiday full of overpriced flowers, guilt, candy, loneliness, and apparently love. Call me a cynic, but romantic love is only one brand of love. I've just been thinking a lot lately about the unsung hero that is loving yourself.
It's always been my belief that love is what happens when you gain acceptance of where you are, acknowledge that there is still work to be done, and you've happened to focus your gaze on something besides chasing it.
Someone told me to "take care" the other day in passing, and it gave me an 'ah-ha' moment. Taking care of yourself is extrememly powerful, and only recently have I learned how it's given me more energy to give love to others as well as my passions.
Five months ago, I made an agreement to myself to spent more time working out, and in order to make good on this promise I had to make some big changes. First, I needed to reset expectations with myself. It's okay to not be home to cook dinner and it's not okay to lazily watch media all night. Then I had to ask for help at home, which I did by requesting to agree on a few nights a week where my boyfriend would "cook" or fend for himself. Luckily, I'm fortunate enough to have someone special in my life that realizes the value of my time investment in myself. Which is perpetuted attitude, my health, and my ability to be more present in my life with him. Finally, I had to make good on my promise to myself to be disciplined in my schedule which is something that's very hard for me, but was accomplished by finding some classes that I enjoyed going to and have ramped up from 1-2 days a week to 3-4. The sweating, laundry, and public showers aside it's interesting how vibrant new relationships can be formed when you involve yourself in a community of people with like interests. I've made new friends and perpetuated healthy habits with current ones. Needless to say the way I feel and my patience with life's inconveniences has improved drastically.
In my experience, there are a million reasons why you should put yourself last and only one great reason not to. When you're last on your own list you limit your own ability to give to others, and you send powerful signals to everyone else that you're not even worth your own time. At the end of my days, I'd like to reflect back on my life and enthusiastically choose to be the main character in the life I built. If the routine of your daily grind is wearing you down, you might consider falling ever-so-optimistically for yourself.
To everyone reading this, whether your single or committed consider the benifits of giving the gift of attention and love to yourself. Happy Valentines Day.
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